“The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:11-12 ESV
Heart — the seat of one’s inner nature, i.e. the feelings, the will, even the intellect
Trusts — to be confident in, the feeling of safety and security that is felt when one can rely on someone or something else
Good — well pleasing, fruitful, morally correct, proper, convenient
Harm — evil, as opposed to good, disagreeable, unwholesome, harmful
As I read these verses and ponder the definitions, I am humbled by the weight of the task God has entrusted to me. No, I am not saying my husband is a project. He is God’s precious child, as am I . . .
But God’s design for me is that my husband see me as a safe place, a refuge, maybe the only place in his world where he knows he can be safe to be himself. How do I “live out” this being a safe place?
Is your husband mechanical or a fixit man? Thank him for the work that he does. Does he not know which end of the hammer to use? DO NOT compare him to “so and so” mr. Fixit. Wife, are you an expert at everything? Do you want your husband to compare you to someone else who may cook/sew/decorate/etc. better than you?
Is your husband a Bible scholar? Ask him questions. Dialog with him about spiritual things. Does he hate to read and have trouble memorizing? DO NOT shame him or “show him up” especially if you are the scholarly type. Ask him questions. Ask him to listen to what you have written and give feedback.
To not do my husband harm also entails my attitude — am I disagreeable? Unwholesome? Critical? Impossible to please? If I want my husband to love me despite my imperfections and flaws, then I need to treat him the way I want to be treated (see Matthew 7:12)
What a profound treasure God has entrusted to me — the heart of my husband.
Lord, teach me to do Your will. . .